I didn't believe this. I was constantly told by the popular beliefs of my sphere of influence that the importance of self-worth was how modestly I dressed. This translated to "how blandly can you dress?". I believed that I was only worthy if I wore things that didn't bring me any attention. This caused me to devalue myself. I was paranoid about what I was wearing, constantly questioning if it was too revealing. I felt like it was a sin to be attractive. I never believed I was beautiful until I received a letter that changed the way I thought about myself.
From an aircraft carrier in the middle of the Pacific ocean my dad wrote me a letter. Near the end he wrote one line: "You are beautiful, don't let anyone else tell you otherwise". Nothing affirms in a young woman her self-worth than one who's family encourages her on the right path. My family never lead me to believe that I wasn't beautiful, but, I listened to the lies of the world. My dad encouraged me to be a meek and humble woman. I started to learn what it was to be a woman, confident in who she was, and confident in her security in Christ. It wasn't about how I looked. It was about my heart. Did I dress a certain way to draw attention to myself? Or did I dress in a certain way to bring glory to God?
I've come to the conclusion that the way I dress can be attractive and fashionable. I don't have to wear layers or baggy clothes to prove I was modest. I still get it wrong and am still working out the best guidelines. But there is one thing for sure. I never want my daughters to grow up without confidence in their self-worth. I want their positions on modesty to be determined by the biblical standards laid out for a godly woman. I want them to have confidence in God's work in their lives.
God has made me the way I am, in physical nature and spiritual nature. I am confident because God has made me and redeemed me. Not because of what I have done or what the world believes of me. I am beautiful. I am made in His image.